Fish Addiction Causing Marital Stress :(
#1
Posted 22 March 2011 - 01:04 PM
my wife doesnt like my fish, or the amount of money i spend feeding my lil habit... what can i do to find a happy medium??
#2
Posted 22 March 2011 - 01:42 PM
Edited by Sarah Jayne, 03 January 2014 - 07:44 PM.
#3
Posted 22 March 2011 - 01:43 PM
#4
Posted 22 March 2011 - 02:18 PM
Wait till something she likes is on TV that you cant stand and tell her while she is enjoying her show, you are going to be doing fish tank stuff.
If you tell her just as the program has started she will tell you to stop talking and leave and not to interupt her anymore.
Also, hide spendings by inventing "trades"
"Yes honey, I know it doesnt sound realistic, someone on the forum traded my 4 electric yellows for this brand new 6 foot tank. I am just as shocked as you are. See how much money I save by spending time on the forum"
#5
Posted 22 March 2011 - 02:20 PM
Colorful fish are the way to go. I set up a tank with electric yellows and such. She loves them
Started breeding bristlenose she loves the babies.
Now to keep the interest going I'm setting up a salt water tank so "she" can have "nemo" hahaha
Now my girlfriend comes with me to the lfs. Haha
#6
Posted 22 March 2011 - 02:41 PM
I went though several girlfriends before the one I have now said to me "no rush, when you finished feeding your fish then we can go out".... so I married her.... and now I have my own LFS.....
now in hind sight, I dont know if getting married or starting a LFS was a good idea..... but I still get to keep my fish tanks, so that's a bonus in itself.
This is one of a few hobbies that can actually pay for itself, so look at keeping fish that are easy to breed and dont need lots of big tanks to raise them... talk to your local FS and get them to commit to something that they need regularly (Electric Yellows, Bristlenose, Mystery snails, or any other medium sized fish that your local recommends... but get their word that they will not reneg on the deal.
#7
Posted 22 March 2011 - 02:46 PM
Anything positive that offsets the occasional bitching about how there are too many tanks in the house is a good thing. So I'm looking for Placidochromis phenochilus "Tanzania"
#8
Posted 22 March 2011 - 04:31 PM
I didn't hear anything about the money I spent on the tank lol.
Also, keep a mental not of all those little things your missus wants but doesn't buy for whatever reason.
Those are the things you buy when you buy fish lol
#9
Posted 22 March 2011 - 05:19 PM
#10
Posted 22 March 2011 - 05:21 PM
Which is your favourite season Andrew?
#11
Posted 22 March 2011 - 06:05 PM
#12
Posted 22 March 2011 - 06:19 PM
Show her who's boss buddy..hahaha jks
#13
Posted 22 March 2011 - 07:08 PM
First ask yourself,
Am I susceptible to hobby addictions or obsessions? (e.g. You have hardly used SCUBA gear, half built cars, or the like in your shed)
Am I the type who will simply swap one obsession for another? (see above)
Are you using your hobby to help cope with reality, or is it becoming your reality?
Are you lying about the money you are spending, or being dishonest about the amount of time you are spending on fishkeeping and related pursuits?
Are you thinking about ways of distracting your partner so you can "get wet?"
If you have answered "yes" to any of the above questions......
Welcome to our World
If you answered "yes" to point one, looks like your partner will have to just love you for the obsessive person that you are There is an up side to having an obsessive partner. It gives you time to pursue your own interests. I would try and cultivate your partners interest in something outside the house...get her out of the way, so you can "stim" at will
Love some of the advice above too.
Edited by Donna, 22 March 2011 - 08:12 PM.
#14
Posted 22 March 2011 - 07:44 PM
hhmmm x2 babies = x4 fish tanks???
#15
Posted 22 March 2011 - 07:52 PM
IMO, that is a very true statement..
Brado, have you tried talking to her about your fishkeeping hobby?
My missus lets me keep as many tanks/fish as I want, as long as I prioritise it over family etc...
Luckily she loves fishkeeping too! haha!
Edited by golden_dase, 22 March 2011 - 07:52 PM.
#16
Posted 22 March 2011 - 08:13 PM
Keep her holding and occupied with fry!
#17
Posted 23 March 2011 - 12:47 AM
#18
Posted 23 March 2011 - 01:18 AM
dont know why it seems to change her mind everytime.... lol.....
#19
Posted 23 March 2011 - 10:24 AM
Dont worry im in on the same boat , no more dinning room now holds 5 tanks and yes it gets brought up in every argument some how!
#20
Posted 23 March 2011 - 10:38 AM
I have to say, I enjoy having the hobby to myself, I dont have to share my hobby, and when I go to my fish shed it is My time
Tony
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