Update:
After the death of my blue diamond, i put my wild and red turq into a friends hospital tank for ~ three weeks. This tank had been established with guppies for around 3-4 months, once again this guy is an experienced breeder and a great understanding of fish. The water quality was perfect on both sera and API testing kits. As the tank i believe only had some drift wood and no substrate i imagine the KH would of been average around 4-6, Ammonia 0.
After 7 days the sick looking red turq died, the same signs and symptoms as the others. Swollen gills, damaged fins (not extreme but present) and a complete discolouration around the head area ~ obviously removed from the tank. *please note the fish did not seem stressed after arrival*
another 10 days passed and the wild seemed almost perfect, actively eating happily swimming and exploring, exactly what a normal 'healthy' fish would do.
today on the 1/12. My wild died at some point during the day being perfectly fine in the morning, the same signs and symptoms, however he didn't seem to deteriorate like the others over a period of time.
I would also like to add my other community tank (which has been running for 4 months) with a variety or kribensis, pictus, guppies, mollys, angels also lost two baby discus today with exactly the same signs+symptoms except more fin damage.
Overall from what i gather, majority of people have been reading this and expecting like i am novice at fish keeping ~ i breed a variety of fish and in all seriousness i have never encountered a problem with fish except for this cichlid family.
And i have read a lot of forums with people posting similar if not exact same problems, with no answers or leaving it unanswered ~ or assumed it was ammonia poisoning.
I don't expect anyone to have an exact answer for me and majority of people are more focused on the flaws of what i have done. I have skipped some steps in maintaining this aquarium just like the average folk, except i am just being honest in my approach to hopefully finally work out what is wrong and how i fixed it for some other poor soul who just wants to experience the same hobby i enjoy too.
The people i have spoken to basically do not know, you can put it down to not having an established aquarium and effectively killing my fish, or you could help me try understand what has happened.
All i am asking for is suggestions, wrong or right, i'm not an arrogant person and i won't turn your suggestion away because this could be something so simple that i didn't even notice.
I have and still will take everyones suggestions into consideration. I just want to 'move on' from jump to statistics about how all fish die from ammonia, as i do not believe that is the case for this tank.
If someone wants to run through my exact procedure one on one and try work out what i should change/suggest anything i am more than happy to right a step by step precess on what i have done over the last 6 months.
TLDR:
-I understand an aquariums bacterial cycle to an extent, and don't believe that this is as simple as ammonia/under established filter.
-Looking for more suggestions.
Things i want to focus more on:
Soil and the understanding of how it directly impacts the ammonia/nitrate cycle ~ this is still relatively new to me, however my other 4 tanks now have soil (amazonia APA) and are fine.
The tank i have when all my problems began, is it possible that something could directly effect the cichlid/cory family as those are the only species which have died in this tank.
Ps.
For those who have been reading and following this experience thus far. Even if you believe i am wrong in my processes of what i have stated, and suggested changes i have taken them into consideration and Thank you for your help.